I use to want a tan, but not anymore. When I was growing up (I’m in my late forties now), there wasn’t the big campaign as today about the warnings on too much sun exposure and how it can severely damage your skin and cause skin cancer. Back when I was young, I would slather myself up with baby oil and bake in the sun for hours. I would get such severe sun burns on my nose that it would peel and bleed. All my friends did the same and looked the same. We all walked around with our burnt skin peeling off our bodies. I remember peoples shoulders and chests having skin falling off. We all did this just to get a tan – all for vanity’s sake. We thought to get a tan, get burnt first – because you know…it turns into a tan eventually and we’ll be looking good.

Sunbathing

Well here I am decades later and visiting the dermatologist every 6 months. It all started with me wanting my husband to get checked out. He is a builder and has worked outdoors for the majority of his life. I decided to get checked with him because it was the only way to get him to go. We went and the doctor looks him over and tells him everything is good. I get my exam and they start slicing on me immediately. This mole looks suspicious, that mole does also and so on. Can’t believe it – the irony of it all!

Every time I go now, something new is cut off me. I noticed I had a tiny dry patch that was no bigger than a pimple on my cheek. You couldn’t see it and it would never go away so I pointed it out to the doctor. Of all things, that tiny dry thing was cancer.  I had to get that cut out. I have a huge white gauze band aid on half my check and going up half my nose. I look like I have a broken nose or had some serious surgery. The area is smaller than my pinky nail, but the band aid makes it look huge. I have been working from home and avoiding the public until the band aid comes off (3 days).

They gave me some literature to read about this type of cancer. This type was most likely caused by my extreme sunbathing (sun burning) years ago. That’s what’s scary about it, it starts surfacing years after you do the damage. I can’t take back my early sun worshipping days, but I can be proactive now and take better care of my skin (it is one of my goals in 2010). I wish skin cancer had the media attention back then as it has now and we had the knowledge on sun products and sun exposure. I now tell my daughter and her friends about it in hopes they stop all the sunbathing at the beach. We live in Florida and it is pretty much the social thing for them to go do every weekend and during the summer. When we are young, we just don’t think too far in the future and we don’t think that some things will happen to us. I didn’t.

Hopefully my cheek heals good and any mark left I can cover with makeup (unless I find out something bad about using makeup all these years). I hope my experience helps my daughter think before heading to the beach and I hope it helps anyone else who reads this. It’s OK to put aside our vanity for the sake of our health.

Do we really want a tan in the big scheme of life especially when it comes back to haunt you years later? 

 Shari – I Want It All

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I want a normal and good dentist! Is that too much to ask? Years ago, I was going to a dentist that stood about 5 feet tall, weighed about 100 pounds and whose hands would shake. I would sit in his chair and see his shaking hands and start freaking out. This was while he was shooting needles in my mouth, drilling, filling, you name it. I always thought the guy was popping his own dental meds or something. The last straw with him was the time he had me all numbed up and was working on a crown. He got a funny look on his face, looked at his assistant and then told me not to worry…of course I couldn’t speak with all the crap jammed in my mouth…Not to worry…worry about what? I started grunted “what, what, what?”  He said he accidentally drilled my tongue. Are you serious? My tongue? WTF!!!  My tongue had a gash in it. He said it would heal and there should be no problems. Well, it did heal and there was a problem – with him. What a freak, that was it for me with that dentist. I never went back.

My next dentist seemed fine. The only thing that I noticed was there was a huge turnover in their office personnel from the person who ran the front desk to the numerous hygienists that worked there. What was up with that? This dentist didn’t speak much. He would barely say two words to me when he did his checkups. I felt that I could make him pass out if I said ‘BOO’ to him. I need a little more interaction from a person when they are wrist deep in my mouth, wouldn’t you? His office started getting more chaotic. I started getting errors in billing and with insurance (don’t mess with my money, big mistake).  I witnessed two of his assistants fighting over who should clean up one of the rooms after a patient. Appointments started slipping and not just a little, there were times I would wait a good 45 to 60 minutes for my appointment. Can’t stand that. One time I waited an hour and got up and asked what the hold is up and they told me they just forgot I was in the waiting room. OK, another big strike. That was it for me. Onto my next dentist…

I found this woman dentist. Great I thought, never had a woman dentist. She probably is very organized, prompt, and with it. She was all that but she also does Botox and wrinkle fillers in her office. I didn’t know this before until I got there and saw all the pamphlets. What??? A dentist who also does cosmetic procedures on your face and wrinkles? Everything in this office seemed about money. She was more into promoting the cosmetic side of her practice than the dental side.  Nothing makes you feel more like crap than to sit in a dentist chair (which is not fun anyways) and to have someone start commenting on your wrinkles and what they can do for you. There went my confidence, thanks lady dentist. You aren’t so hot yourself. Onto my next dentist…

All I want is a good dentist!!

Shari – I Want It All

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What Do You Want in 2010?

by Shari McDonaldDecember 30, 2009

What do you want in 2010? Have you thought about it? Have you made any resolutions? I am not one to make resolutions. I’ve tried it, but decided I’m not good at keeping them or even remembering them. I start out strong and fizzle out. So now I like to think of resolutions as goals [...]

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Stress Shopping

by Shari McDonaldDecember 14, 2009

H oliday stress, it’s here!! Every year I tell myself that I am not going to stress out trying to get everything done for Christmas. I vow to start early and stick to a budget. Well, here I am less than 2 weeks until Christmas and I am starting to feel major stress and [...]

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I Just Wanted To Change It Up

by Shari McDonaldDecember 4, 2009

I wanted to do something different this year for the Thanksgiving Holiday. I wanted to travel to Virginia and have it with my family. I wanted to change it up this year, so I proposed this idea to my family. I think they went into shock. We have celebrated Thanksgiving exactly the same way for [...]

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Are You Thankful?

by Shari McDonaldNovember 23, 2009

Can you think of 10 things that you are thankful for? Sounds easy, but some people will struggle with this. We all can come up with the quick and easy ones for instance:
1. I am thankful for being alive.
2. I am thankful for my health.
3. I am thankful for my family.
Now dig deeper to come [...]

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Why Do We Apologize So Much?

by Shari McDonaldOctober 24, 2009

Why do we, we as in women, apologize so much for things that have no reason for us to be apologizing for? How many times do you find yourself saying I’m sorry to strangers, friends, coworkers, and family for something that you shouldn’t be? The other night I was having a discussion with a friend [...]

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What’s Up with Some People

by Shari McDonaldSeptember 25, 2009

What’s up with some people. Why are they so rude and unapologetic about it? We all know the types, we all have experienced an encounter of a rude person. How do you handle the situation? Do you say something, ignore it, or accept the rudeness and stew about it later? When you have to deal [...]

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